Control is a very strange thing. It is one of the great illusions. We want control! We think we have control. We try to control others. We try to control our lives. We even try to control death! Control is a symptom. Control is a symptom of fear. So, what are we really afraid of? Usually, being out of control!

Since control is an illusion, it would seem simple to give it up. Or, as it is said in AA, “Let go and let God.” I guess we feel like we can do God’s job better than God or Spirit’s job better than Spirit or even the Universe’s job better than the Universe. That seems pretty egotistical of us. The truth is that we are not in trust.

Again, I ask how silly is that? How can we not trust that which is more experienced, more knowing and has been around a lot longer than these bodies? And yet, we have taken on the illusion that we cannot trust Spirit or ourselves or even Mother Earth. How do we change this?

First, of course, it is important that we realize when we are in a controlling behavior. That can be a bit tricky, especially considering that we usually don’t want anyone to bring it to our attention. When we are in control, remember that we are in fear. When we are in fear, we are out of our bodies. Someone usually asks us to take a breath to help us get grounded again. The usual response is, “Don’t tell me to breathe!” Breathing is the first thing that will bring you home to your body so you can make better choices.

Control can take on different appearances such as a mother’s worry or drinking too much of anything, overeating, over exercising, being bossy or simply being judgmental. Once you figure out that you’re attempting to control something that isn’t controllable, the next step is asking what is the fear that is driving the control.

Understanding that fear can help you come back to center. You may need help with this one. There are plenty of great people to help. It may be a trusted friend or a practitioner. It may be simply sitting down, being still and asking Spirit. It may actually require some extended processing.

When you understand what is driving you, you can make a plan and take action. Remember that control is trying to force something. Taking action with Spirit is creating. This is trust. (Spirit does not mess with you.) Creating may be solving a problem, completing a task, helping in a rightful way or simply being present. It is success. Success comes from taking rightful action.

Rightful action is action of the light, for the highest and best of everyone involved. Creating change through respect and love is more successful and longer lasting than through intimidation. Rightful action is calm and powerful.

We all get frightened. We all fall into old behaviors. We all lose trust from time to time. Control has never worked well. In this new paradigm, it really won’t work. It is time that you breathe; turn things over to Spirit; acknowledge, bless and release your fears, and take rightful action. You might be joyfully surprised how things turn out.

Joy and Blessings,
Kim

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